The transformation from inner demon to average 2 year old toddler I think is complete... I can deal with this :)
It has been a busy week and I wish I had a video or my blog handy each time Sophie says the cutest things! Santa has sent her a Christmas message that she LOVES to watch.. she has started to make her Christmas cookies and has asked to paint Caleb a shirt for Christmas!! Ask her what she wants for Christmas and she will tell you "candy" and "gingerbread"... when trying to explain to her Christmas stocking that get filled with candy - she says "ooooooh" like she had a different understanding of it previously. She has now asked to have a stocking for her "birthday" which is the day she asks for all the time... "can we do.. or can I have this for my birthday ..."
The other day she went and saw Santa Clause for the first time.. this day came after she had a rough morning with following direction and Fisbee her elf texted Santa his displeasure... Santa was there at Walmart waiting for her when we arrived... she couldn't wait to go see him and say sorry! The next visit she was too tired to care to see him, but did stand beside him for a minute.... the next day she took her stuffed Santa and sat her baby next to him and "took their pictures" and also asked to have one taken with her beside them.. I think that will be this years ornament :) She then preceded to sit on the floor and say with her magic wand "Happy Birthday Sheba, Happy Birthday Gargamel. HB Mommy, HB Daddy, HB Pumpkin, HB Nanny, HB Santa is coming to town!" Santa has since sent her a video message asking her to make more effort to pick up her toys... what a neat thing Santa did for her!
Today everything is "just terrible!" to her... and she needs socks on because "my feet stink" lol ooooo what a perfect book she could write with just 2 days of her activity.
Caleb is starting to try to sit forward by himself.. he is full of smiles and giggles and LOVES to tell stories. He is starting to sleep longer.. from 4 to 5 hour initial lengths of time at night! My little cuddle bug :)
Showing posts with label Sophie. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Sophie. Show all posts
Thursday, December 9, 2010
Thursday, December 2, 2010
Changes
Day 2 of working on a more positive approach with Sophie... and the terrible two's.. aka inner demon's.
Day 1 went GREAT!!! I was exhausted at the end of it from trying all day to not just praise her good behaviors, but highlight the above and beyonds without over doing it... she was great and as she stomped my foot, kicked the cat and pinched my lip after it was already bleeding.. I just asked her nicely to be easy and explained how upsetting it was when people and animals got hurt.. (to actually write all of what I did different and how our day went.. well would take a separate blog) BUT it was a good day on both of our parts for trying this change.
Day 2 she spent most of her day with her grandparents (great) but during our time together I did see improvement and changes in some areas. Instead of asking her multiple times to do something, I asked her 1x and if she said "no" then I left it at that and a natural consequence occurred.. if she ignored me I warned her I would ask 1 more time and then there would be a consequence.. so when she refused to bring me her cup for more drink... I didn't fetch it.. when she ignored me when asking her to come get a diaper change... I picked her up and didn't utter a word while she kicked and whined, and changed her... when she "couldn't" find her cup that was in front of her before we left the house this morning... I didn't grab it to avoid a melt down in the car.. and let the meltdown happen.. SOOOO the verdict.. this technique is starting a difference!
Oh if I just hadn't let her be 2 before :) I really do expect more out of her due to her intelligence and don't let her be her age very often... so this change needs to start with me! I don't want to reward her or encourage her to do things for a treat.. I want her to do something because it is the right thing to do..I want her to want positive reinforcement not negative. I want her to want to pick up her toys... I want her to want to be nice.. so wish me luck with this change.. because it is not really Sophie I am trying to change.. it is me! It is my expectations and my behavior trying to make things easier sometimes.....
So tonight she picked up, she ate dinner, and she didn't whine for very long AT ALL when we denied her what she requested due to various factors.. the time out step has changed to the step she can go to to whine and return to her activity she was removed from when she has a happy face...
Now for the quietness of the night to take over.. Sophie is in bed sleeping, Caleb is snoozing on my lap.. and our 8 year old German Shepard, Sheba is sleeping with her bff (the cat). I hope Sheba is dreaming of her days running in the park, chasing her Kong, stealing pizza's off tables, eating windows and phone lines.... and her days of having fun.hanging her head out of the sunroof. I hope she dreams of the good times she has shared with us.. and that she has no pain as she is silently suffering due to a rare condition that is causing her nerves to die, and causing her to have major hip and leg issues. Tonight was the worst so far, her legs cross when she stands, and hips bow out.. she couldn't even come in the house tonight when called... so Sheba... I hope you are pain free and your pain medication has kicked in.. I hope you have good dreams tonight and you are sleeping on the floor beside me because you want to, not because you cant move to the bedroom where you normally sleep. And I hope that Sophie continues her empathy and understanding of our pleading to be nicer to you while you are still here with us.... You need to rest up and get ready for Sophie's big adventures she has planned for you tomorrow- she wants you to color with her, she wants to trace you on paper and then hide on you like she did with her Nanny today.. so rest up Sheba... tomorrow will be a new day!
Day 1 went GREAT!!! I was exhausted at the end of it from trying all day to not just praise her good behaviors, but highlight the above and beyonds without over doing it... she was great and as she stomped my foot, kicked the cat and pinched my lip after it was already bleeding.. I just asked her nicely to be easy and explained how upsetting it was when people and animals got hurt.. (to actually write all of what I did different and how our day went.. well would take a separate blog) BUT it was a good day on both of our parts for trying this change.
Day 2 she spent most of her day with her grandparents (great) but during our time together I did see improvement and changes in some areas. Instead of asking her multiple times to do something, I asked her 1x and if she said "no" then I left it at that and a natural consequence occurred.. if she ignored me I warned her I would ask 1 more time and then there would be a consequence.. so when she refused to bring me her cup for more drink... I didn't fetch it.. when she ignored me when asking her to come get a diaper change... I picked her up and didn't utter a word while she kicked and whined, and changed her... when she "couldn't" find her cup that was in front of her before we left the house this morning... I didn't grab it to avoid a melt down in the car.. and let the meltdown happen.. SOOOO the verdict.. this technique is starting a difference!
Oh if I just hadn't let her be 2 before :) I really do expect more out of her due to her intelligence and don't let her be her age very often... so this change needs to start with me! I don't want to reward her or encourage her to do things for a treat.. I want her to do something because it is the right thing to do..I want her to want positive reinforcement not negative. I want her to want to pick up her toys... I want her to want to be nice.. so wish me luck with this change.. because it is not really Sophie I am trying to change.. it is me! It is my expectations and my behavior trying to make things easier sometimes.....
So tonight she picked up, she ate dinner, and she didn't whine for very long AT ALL when we denied her what she requested due to various factors.. the time out step has changed to the step she can go to to whine and return to her activity she was removed from when she has a happy face...
Now for the quietness of the night to take over.. Sophie is in bed sleeping, Caleb is snoozing on my lap.. and our 8 year old German Shepard, Sheba is sleeping with her bff (the cat). I hope Sheba is dreaming of her days running in the park, chasing her Kong, stealing pizza's off tables, eating windows and phone lines.... and her days of having fun.hanging her head out of the sunroof. I hope she dreams of the good times she has shared with us.. and that she has no pain as she is silently suffering due to a rare condition that is causing her nerves to die, and causing her to have major hip and leg issues. Tonight was the worst so far, her legs cross when she stands, and hips bow out.. she couldn't even come in the house tonight when called... so Sheba... I hope you are pain free and your pain medication has kicked in.. I hope you have good dreams tonight and you are sleeping on the floor beside me because you want to, not because you cant move to the bedroom where you normally sleep. And I hope that Sophie continues her empathy and understanding of our pleading to be nicer to you while you are still here with us.... You need to rest up and get ready for Sophie's big adventures she has planned for you tomorrow- she wants you to color with her, she wants to trace you on paper and then hide on you like she did with her Nanny today.. so rest up Sheba... tomorrow will be a new day!
Tuesday, November 30, 2010
Knock Knock
Sophie: Knock Knock
Me: Whose there?
Sophie: Pear
Me: Pear who?
Sophie: PEAR!!! (laughing hysterically now)
It occurred to me the other day.. my daughter has been telling me knock knock jokes... yes my 2 year old daughter that has a vocabulary of a 5 year old... and yes it just occurred to me- where did she learn that? I asked around the family and found out that last week there was a show my grandfather remembers telling a knock knock joke on it.. and that was it.... so miss smarty took this short segment of television and has turned it in to a daily bit... and she understands how it works... her jokes are original and funny to her!
Where has the time gone? Really??? She has always been my baby.... and after I had Caleb, when I first saw her- I looked at her so differently for many weeks. I stared at disbelief on the size of her- I couldn't believe how tall she was... how thick her legs are (cute chunky)... how BIG her hands were... when did her eye lashes get so full and long? She has these beautiful round eyes- when did they get so large? She looks like a tiny little adult.. is she supposed to? When did she grow up???
My fear during pregnancy #2 is how I would love my children...would I treat Sophie differently? Would I love #2 just as much, or push Sophie aside??? someone told me this that always stuck...
you will love them differently.. and for different reasons and that is okay!!!
I love my children- and that statement is so true... I love them differently but the same. My love for Sophie as my little baby did change... I loved her for who she has grown to be right now. For this exceptionally bright, beautiful and tall 2 year old who acts like a kindergartner... and that's my down fall, to my love for her..... She is so high functioning- and understands complex things for her "age" that I take it for granted when she acts her age.... that's all I can complain about haha- that my child acts her age!!! Having a conversation with her and to hear her replies, questions and her understanding of it, you would be amazed sometimes... so when she tells me why she doesn't know why she is in timeout... or refuses to pick up her toys... or hits me and yells at me... I get frustrated because she is SOOO smart and intelligent that I expect her to be able to follow the rules all of the time.
I hope to reflect on this daily and change my expectations so I don't set her up to fail.. now or ever!
So in sum, my love for her changed... but a great appreciation for who she is has grown! I love her differntly then Caleb.. and differently then as I did before Caleb.. and I cant explain it with words. As a parent- you understand :) I love my babies.. and Soph will always be my little girl- my favorite first child :)
Me: Whose there?
Sophie: Pear
Me: Pear who?
Sophie: PEAR!!! (laughing hysterically now)
It occurred to me the other day.. my daughter has been telling me knock knock jokes... yes my 2 year old daughter that has a vocabulary of a 5 year old... and yes it just occurred to me- where did she learn that? I asked around the family and found out that last week there was a show my grandfather remembers telling a knock knock joke on it.. and that was it.... so miss smarty took this short segment of television and has turned it in to a daily bit... and she understands how it works... her jokes are original and funny to her!
Where has the time gone? Really??? She has always been my baby.... and after I had Caleb, when I first saw her- I looked at her so differently for many weeks. I stared at disbelief on the size of her- I couldn't believe how tall she was... how thick her legs are (cute chunky)... how BIG her hands were... when did her eye lashes get so full and long? She has these beautiful round eyes- when did they get so large? She looks like a tiny little adult.. is she supposed to? When did she grow up???
My fear during pregnancy #2 is how I would love my children...would I treat Sophie differently? Would I love #2 just as much, or push Sophie aside??? someone told me this that always stuck...
you will love them differently.. and for different reasons and that is okay!!!
I love my children- and that statement is so true... I love them differently but the same. My love for Sophie as my little baby did change... I loved her for who she has grown to be right now. For this exceptionally bright, beautiful and tall 2 year old who acts like a kindergartner... and that's my down fall, to my love for her..... She is so high functioning- and understands complex things for her "age" that I take it for granted when she acts her age.... that's all I can complain about haha- that my child acts her age!!! Having a conversation with her and to hear her replies, questions and her understanding of it, you would be amazed sometimes... so when she tells me why she doesn't know why she is in timeout... or refuses to pick up her toys... or hits me and yells at me... I get frustrated because she is SOOO smart and intelligent that I expect her to be able to follow the rules all of the time.
I hope to reflect on this daily and change my expectations so I don't set her up to fail.. now or ever!
So in sum, my love for her changed... but a great appreciation for who she is has grown! I love her differntly then Caleb.. and differently then as I did before Caleb.. and I cant explain it with words. As a parent- you understand :) I love my babies.. and Soph will always be my little girl- my favorite first child :)
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